5 min learnNew DelhiAug 4, 2026 10:00 PM IST
Taking duty after a relationship ends is never simple. Whereas some individuals discover it simpler accountable their former companion, others shoulder most, and even all, of the duty themselves. These themes just lately got here into focus after Sohail Khan and his former spouse, Seema Sajdeh, mirrored on their marriage and divorce on the fact present Alliance. Talking about their relationship, Sohail mentioned, “I’ve lived with this stunning girl for 25 years. Let me admit on nationwide tv that if there have been any errors, I’ll take the onus and duty for them.” He additionally shared, “At the moment, kaam theek nahi chal raha tha (my work wasn’t going nicely), so I wasn’t in the fitting way of thinking. Due to my behaviour, I misplaced somebody I actually beloved.”
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Regardless of their separation, Sohail spoke warmly concerning the bond they proceed to share. He mentioned, “She is the mom of my two stunning youngsters, so greater than love, I’ve immense respect for Seema. This may at all times stay a memorable present for me. Although we’re separated, this present has introduced us again collectively to speak and open up to each other. There was a lacking hyperlink between us, and this present helped reconnect it.” He additionally mirrored on how spending time collectively on the present modified their dynamic: “I haven’t been this near Seema in so a few years. This home has introduced me nearer to her. We’re speaking once more. Exterior, for months and years, we have been dwelling fully completely different lives. The youngsters stick with me and go to Seema, so we weren’t actually in contact. However after coming into this home, we’ve at the least grow to be civil. We converse every single day, meet every single day, and ask one another how we’re doing. I care about her, she cares about me, and it’s so pretty. I don’t know if we’ll ever expertise this once more, however at the least we’ve understood one another. I’ve thanked the Alliance home for that. If somebody had instructed me earlier that Seema and I may comfortably share the identical area, I’d’ve had the identical hesitation. I need to spend extra time with Seema on this home. If I get the chance, I’d like to guard her as somebody I deeply care about.”
Nevertheless, Salman Khan questioned Sohail’s resolution to take full duty for the divorce. In a promo for the present, he requested, “Are you continue to listening to Seema? Ought to I say this or not? I’ll say it… My expensive noble brother took all of the blame on himself. I do know, as a brother, how a lot he’s tried. Emotionally, simply taking it in all through.” Their dialog raises broader questions on accountability after a relationship ends, how former companions can rebuild respect and friendship, and whether or not taking all of the blame is emotionally wholesome or finally counterproductive.
Is taking full duty after a breakup wholesome?
Sonal Khangarot, licensed rehabilitation counsellor and psychotherapist at The Reply Room, “Taking full duty for a relationship ending is often not psychologically wholesome as a result of relationships are created and maintained by two individuals, not one. Whereas reflecting by yourself behaviour is vital, it’s equally vital to recognise that each relationship is influenced by each companions and the dynamic they create collectively.”
Many elements contribute as to whether a relationship works, Khangarot says, together with compatibility, communication types, emotional maturity, childhood experiences, attachment patterns, present life satisfaction, stress, private values, and future expectations. Generally two persons are merely not aligned in what they want or need, regardless of caring for one another.
“Wholesome accountability means acknowledging your function, studying out of your errors, and utilizing these insights for future relationships. Extreme self-blame, nonetheless, entails taking duty for every thing that went improper, which may result in guilt, anxiousness, and lowered vanity. Therapeutic comes from understanding the connection as a shared expertise slightly than carrying its complete burden alone,” states Khangarot.
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How will you transfer on with out being trapped by remorse?
It’s common for individuals to look again and really feel that stress, grief, burnout, poor psychological well being, or different life challenges affected how they confirmed up in a relationship. Whereas these experiences can affect behaviour, they don’t outline an individual’s complete capability to like or join.
“The healthiest approach to course of remorse is to acknowledge what occurred, take duty in your actions with out over-identifying along with your errors, and ask, “What can I do in another way shifting ahead?” If reconciliation is feasible, a honest apology, accountability, and consistent behavioural change matter greater than guarantees. If the connection has ended, the main target shifts to self-reflection, remedy if wanted, strengthening emotional regulation, and growing more healthy communication and relationship abilities. Development occurs when remorse turns into a lesson slightly than a lifelong id. The objective is to not erase the previous however to grasp it, study from it, and use these insights to construct more healthy relationships sooner or later,” concludes Khangarot.
DISCLAIMER: This text is predicated on data from the general public area and/or the specialists we spoke to.
